When In Conversation With An Elder

The human rife for socialization gets him going and moving into scenarios where he shares thoughts,feelings and worries.

People chat on trivial, soft issues, they discuss on matters of importance; with the conversation focusing on meeting the need to interact and share what's in the mind.

When age mates and contemporaries converse, even if it's serious, their talk always is a show of ease,of relaxation and of an inherent comfort. But not like that with elders, senior colleagues and older people, who the demand to respect weighs in on the individual a steaming coordination and flying calmness.

Have you sat down and talked with an adult? As in whether you have engaged in a conscious conversation with someone older, say your father, grandfather or mother. Unlike the chitchats with a friend, obviously, the case here is different.

Definitely, you might wish to get on well in a conversation with an elderly person and still retain that spark of admiration that won you that thoughtful discussion in the first place?
Below is a recipe of a good conversation with such persons.

1. The same respect that won you that opportunity to have to sit with that person and for him or her to engage you, must be intact. Yes, you must be calm, cool-headed and responsible at that moment, even if it's pretentious.

2. Though it's a tete a tête, you must let him or her have the discussion. The elderly person must be the anchor person, choosing and navigating what area and subject to go.

3. You must not argue any point with him or her, even if you disagree totally with their points. They must not be made to be wrong, no matter how wrong they are. A disagreement is subtly understood as challenge to their 'superior' knowledge, which is insulting.

4. If you have any reservations to the instructions given, your negation should not be presented at that point. That sign of disobedience pisses off. If you must disobey an instruction which truly is unworkable, you must do that at the point of execution.

5. Even if you know it to be the most baloney of suggestions or thoughts given, you must give the impression of exquisiteness, of how it is so valuable-by nodding in obvious excitement. If you must reject, it should be in the acting.

6. Do not outrightly cut an elder in his words, even if he's talking bunkum. If you feel that he's wasting your valuable time and may want to leave, you must closely watch him and strike right at the moment he makes to end the point he has.

7. Yes, at that point, use the opportunity to slide in, telling him how wonderful, even if not, that his opinions were and how you'd have loved to have more but for time. He feels so valued and is very much excited.

8. Tell him him you'll make out time to visit him once again, even if you know truly that you won't. Then courteously bid a farewell and take your leave.

But, the key points you must not forget is that you must not show disrespect at any point of the conversation and do not argue a passionate point.